Help! Tatum has the hardest time with nursery. He hates to go. It doesn't help that he is scared of other women unless he knows them well, he is just fine with strange men though. I have tried to stay and get him used to it while I'm there, he just clings to me the whole time. I tried dropping him off cold turkey after I pried him off my leg. I came back a while later and he was asleep in Bro. Trace's (a kind soul who after hearing my son screaming decided to have mercy on him) arms. The nursery leaders say he won't let them touch him and his cries are not sad, but angry. Fiesty kid!
The poor kid clings to us as soon as we walk into the church. After sacrament meeting's closing prayer Tate cries and clings to me, a serious death grip. I just don't know what to do. I let him come to Sunday school with us today and made Jared take him while I went to YW. If anyone has any suggestions to help with the separation anxiety, please let me know! Bentli told me to leave when she started going to nursery, so I was not prepared for this.
I better go, Bentli is still at the dinner table crying, "I wish I didn't have to eat!"
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He sounds a lot like Kaiya did. She always has a hard time unless she knows the leaders. I don't know what to tell you except maybe if you can do some get together with the nursery leaders outside of church so he could get to know them. Other than that - I guess just staying in there with him. Poor little guy. I know exactly what you mean though. He will grow out of it eventually...
... of course Kaiya cried today going into nursery... so what am I talking about.
Oh no! My poor little buddy! You could be like Jodi and pray that the guy that was holding him today gets called into nursery. (That is what she did to me.) :) Actually, it sounds like you don't even need to be that specific- just pray that a couple gets the nursery calling. Good luck!
Sorry no help here. Although Lexi has had serious problems with sepreation, nursery didn't count. For some reason she has always love nursery. All I can say is good luck and I will say a little prayer for you that he will change his mind.
O boy Jen. Naomi had really bad separation anxiety also, and I must admit, I was big weenie about it. I never forced her to be away from me until she outgrew it. They do outgrow it, BTW. I think the peak for the problem is 18 months to 2 years (you might want to double check that). Right now, when you leave, he doesn't understand that you've just left the room. He thinks you have gone and my never come back. That would be scary for anyone, let along a toddler. Can you take him into church with you? Just for a while longer? It wont be long until he establishes some trusting relationships with other adults at your church that he feels some security with. Then you can try leaving him again in their care, even if it's just for you to go to the bathroom. In fact, I would start slow. So go make friends with your nursery ladies (if you want to) and see if they'll agree to a gradual acclimation. And if that doesn't work, hold off for a while longer. Once he realizes you aren't going away for good, and that really seeps in, he'll get over this anxiety fast. Promise! Bentli is super mature. I'm not surprised she skipped that stage.
My oldest struggled with nursery in the beginning, I tired everything I knew to do, then someone suggested that I let her take something from home with her kind of as a comfort thing. She loved books so I made her a special little bag to carry them in, it didn't work right away she still struggled at times but gradually she was excited to go cause she got to show off her "book bag" and her "church books". Every child is different though, sometimes it's a hit or miss, ya just have to keep trying new things till something works. Hang in there eventually he will LOVE nursery and never want to leave. :)
I wish I had some great nugget of advice, but all I can say is give him time. He has had quite a few changes recently. When my kids had a hard time though, we would invite another kid from nursery over for a play date. So when we would drop them off at nursery they would have someone they knew there. Be patient. All my kids have been so different.
Cute Halloween costumes! I'm pretty sure Lily will be like Bentli when it comes to nursery-she LOVES other people. It's too bad Matt Jorgensen isn't around. What's your YW calling?
That's exactly the way Ian was. Wouldn't let other women near him, but he was OK with men. I found it was a lot easier when Nate dropped him off (for me at least). Same with Annika. She would just fall asleep on the floor somewhere, probably because she needed a nap anyway. It just takes time. So far Kaelyn has been my only child who ran into the nursery door the first day and never looked back. Ian finally got used to nursery in Maryland, when we lived there and then we moved here and had to start all over. It just takes a lot of patience... and prayer... and the right person who will hold him... :)
This too shall pass. Really. Miss you guys.
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